I know I have been a little quiet, a little absent recently, but I’m trying to get back into doing what I truly enjoy – oversharing 🙂
The last few months have been challenging, but I’ve managed to survive and now thriving and feeling confident and successful.
Back in October, Matt was laid off from his full time job, so in November I went back to working full time (so I can cover the insurance) after being PRN for the last 5 years. It’s actually been a blessing in disguise. Matt is able to focus on his business now, and I’m enjoying having a more consistent schedule rather than working crazy hours, different hours, jacking up my sleep schedule. I work 3a-3p three days a week, which sounds nuts to some people but I LOVE it! Yes i wake up early and I go to bed early, but on my days off my body is in that routine and I find I’m so much more productive when I’m up early. I see the kids more on this schedule, and my sleep is so much better.
Of course, in true Murphy’s Law – as soon as my new insurance started the kids decided to EACH have health emergencies. Couldn’t do it a month before when we were on the amazing insurance through Matt’s work where everything was covered 100%. Nooooo… that would’ve made life too easy. Logan had a random severe asthma attack that involved a call to 911 and a long stay in the ER to get under control. Then Blake had an emergency surgery that has taken him out of sports for 3 months. Then of course the holidays, Blake’s 13th birthday, my birthday, and now the new year!
I feel like we are finally recovering from the chaos, and I’m feeling good and have energy to get back into doing the things I love again. Like helping others, sharing things I’m passionate about, and just enjoying life again.
The last couple years we have taken a cruise for Spring Break. This year we decided to do something a little different.
Matt’s uncle has a boat in St Petersburg, Florida that he lives on for about half the year. He’s retired, has a house here in NC, but hates the cold weather in the wintertime. So, he lives on his boat in FL during those cold months. Some of the family have taken turns going down to visit and stay on his boat – so we finally took our turn. And what an adventure it was! The kids had SO much fun, they said it was one of their favorite vacations and keep asking if we can go back.
Living on a boat was an adventure in itself. He doesn’t take the boat out, it stays parked at the marina in a slip. Below there are 3 bedrooms – Uncle Jeff has his own bedroom area, then we had two bedrooms and two bathrooms just for us. There was a living room, full kitchen, and my favorite spot was going up top to lounge and admire the views!
We were walking distance to SO MANY things. The St. Pete Pier was about a 10 minute walk away. Blake and I enjoyed walking there and getting ice cream (for him) and coffee (for me) at the end of the pier. There is a massive playground there as well. Also, a small beach area that the kids loved! Near the beach area was a pizza place, drink stand, and splash pad. So so much to do.
There was also a soccer stadium close to the marina, and Uncle Jeff got free tickets to a game. He took the kids one night and Matt and I were able to get out for a date night early on in the trip which was amazing! He spoiled the kids with hot dogs, popcorn, and ice cream – they had a blast!
We drove about an hour south to North Jetty Beach one afternoon. Gorgeous beach, beautiful blue water, and we found a bunch of shark teeth! We went for the shark teeth hunt, but the kids ended up wanting to play in the water the whole time so Matt and I were hunting the shark teeth.
On another day we drove out to Clearwater Beach. They were having their sandcastle festival – the theme was dinosaurs. It was so impressive! We really enjoyed that. While out at Clearwater, I found a groupon for a Dolphin tour so we went on that as well. We saw dolphins within 2 minutes of leaving the harbor – amazing! Clearwater was pretty busy and little overwhelming otherwise, so we didn’t spend any extra time there.
One evening toward the end of our trip, Uncle Jeff offered to hang out with the boys again so Matt and I could have one more date night. We walked to a restaurant right at the entrance to the pier, Fresco’s. We had been wanting to try it all week. We got a perfect seat outside right on the water. The food was delicious. Uncle Jeff took the boys for ice cream (those boys were spoiled by almost daily ice cream cones lol).
We flew Allegiant both ways. They do non-stop flights out of our nearby airport into St. Petersburg in the Spring. It was very affordable, although it is a budget airline with no frills, it’s still a great option when traveling with kids. A few tips when flying with Allegiant – there is no wifi onboard, so make sure to download shows/movies to tablets prior to leaving. Beverages/snacks are for purchase only so if you don’t want to spend the money, bring something onboard. The only free piece of luggage is the personal item that fits under your seat. There is a fee for a carry on that goes in the overhead bin, and of course checking a bag. It is MUCH cheaper to check than to carry on AND to pay in advance rather than at the airport. We checked 2 bags and each person had a backpack to fit under the seat. Otherwise, flying with Allegiant was a great experience for the great deal we got – just come prepared!
All in all, the kids were right – it was one of our best family vacations!
Traveling with my kids is something I love to do. I didn’t get to travel as a kid, so not only am I enjoying the experiences myself but I love watching my kids experience new things and make memories. We are not “rich” by any means, I’ve just learned some tricks and hacks along the way for making travel more affordable (especially cruises). If you’d like to see some of my travel hacks, tips, especially for traveling with kids – drop a comment for what you’d like to see and I can do a separate post!
As a busy mom it’s easy to feel overwhelmed constantly, never-ending to-do lists, you feel like your brain is an internet browser with 92 tabs open all at once. I have a few tricks to tackling those to-do lists. Many of the tasks on my to-do list, although they seem overwhelming, actually only take a few minutes. And there are times throughout the day that I have a few minutes, I just don’t always realize it. Also, multitasking – this simple skill can actually save you time.
Laundry
Start a load in the washer every night before I go to bed
In the morning, while my coffee is brewing, put that load in the dryer
Fold and put away that laundry – doing a daily load keeps the mountain of laundry at bay, and makes it more manageable. Realistically think about it – how long does it actually take to fold that one load and put it away? Minutes. Not long! And think of how great you’ll feel when it’s done!
Get the kids involved – Let them help! Logan has loved helping with laundry since he was little. I let him put clothes in the washer, pull them out of the dryer, and put away his own clothes. It’s fun for him, quality time with him, AND he’s learning some life skills. Blake has been doing his own laundry since he was about 8. I put sticky notes on the washer so he knows the settings to use. Are the clothes always perfect when they’re put away? No, but they’re clean and that’s good enough! I’m raising future husbands and I want them to be true partners to their future mates, like the husband I have – capable of sharing in the household duties!
Meal Planning/Prepping
Online grocery ordering: This saves me money AND time. I do weekly Walmart grocery orders. It saves my usual items so it takes seconds to fill my cart with my weekly items. I also fill my cart throughout the week when I notice things we need. It only takes a few seconds to add it to my cart, by the time I’m ready to order my groceries it doesn’t take long at all!
I meal prep a lot of meals – not just to eat healthy, but to save time. I might make a breakfast casserole at the beginning of the week to last for breakfast all week, or I make a big batch of breakfast items for the kids to eat throughout the week. Blake is capable of heating up his own breakfast, and it’s quick and easy to reheat for Logan. When I cook dinner at the beginning of the week, I will simultaneously sometimes cook another meal for another day. I’m already using the pots/pans – I make the most of my time, less dishes to wash.
I use my crockpot. A LOT. There is so much you can do with a crockpot that you may not realize – let it do the cooking while you do other things!
The Simplest Tip – But Hardest – Replace Social Media Scrolling With Productivity
Ex: When I’m sitting in the car rider line for 10-15 mins before school lets out –
Make doc appts
Online grocery shopping
Pay bills
Look for other opportunities throughout the day when you have 10-15 mins to kill. Today it seems our natural reaction is to go straight to our phone and scroll. Think of all the little tasks that seem so overwhelming, but actually only take a few mins. Squeeze them in if you can.
Are you in FB groups that constantly have drama, you never post in them because you’re afraid of judgement, and if you REALLY think about it you get more negativity out of it than positivity? Remove yourself, or just snooze for 30 days and reevaluate.
Do you have a friend that is always a negative Nancy? Or maybe a friend that puts you down more than they lift you up? Reevaluate your friendships. Distance yourself from those that bring you down more than lift you up.
Are you addicted to true crime tv shows and podcasts? Yeah I was too. Take a break and replace with comedy tv shows/podcasts or positive mindset podcasts.
Find the positive
By nature, we tend to focus on the negative. The bottom line – you can’t change what has happened, but you can change how you let it affect you.
Make a conscious effort to take a negative thought and turn it into a positive. Start small. Ex: “I had a rough day at work, it was so busy, people were rude, etc” à “I’m lucky to have a good job, at least I get paid for today, I have job security in my profession. And the rude people don’t come home with me – I get to leave my work at work and come home to my family.”
Gratitude Journal
Start your day by thinking of just one thing you’re grateful for. It doesn’t have to be big. But training your brain to start the day focused on gratitude puts your mindset in a positive mode for the day.
End your day the same way – this is also a good time to reflect on some negative thoughts you may have had during the day and think of how to turn them into a positive.
Over time, your brain will be trained to focus on the positive
Be like Nike – Just Do It
Lacking motivation to get things done, then you feel lazy, then you feel down because your house is a mess, you felt unproductive, you feel bad about yourself, and it’s a snowball effect.
JUST START – getting started is the hardest part. Laundry to fold but you’re dreading it, feel like it wastes this precious small amount of time you have to yourself? Just get started – it usually ends up taking less time than you think. And once you get started, it gets easier to just get it done. Then you feel better about yourself and the mess!
Feeling sluggish, you know you need to get some exercise, but feeling lazy and don’t feel like getting ready? Just do it. In your pjs, who cares? Many times I’ve just thrown on a hoodie over my pjs and took a short walk. That small dose of vit D makes me feel more energized and is a huge mood boost! Now, if you sleep naked or in skimpy pjs maybe throw on a robe or something, don’t get arrested for streaking in your neighborhood. Does that still feel like too much work? Get down on your living room floor and do some stretching, sit-ups, 10-15 mins of physical activity – it will release endorphins that will improve your mood!
Move Your Body
Those last points kinda go along with this – make it a habit to move your body every day in some way. Even for just 15-20 mins. Go for a walk, walk the dog, ride a bicycle, do some yoga in your living room, play with your kids outside.
Moving your body is not only physically healthy, but boosts your mental health. It releases those feel-good hormones that improve your mood and put you in a better head space.
Bonus tip: listen to The Mindset Mentor podcast while going for a walk – he has some amazing episodes, short and sweet, that are really inspiring and mood-lifting!
This is something I have wanted to do for awhile and felt like I couldn’t find the time. I finally MADE the time. When you become a mother, sometimes you lose yourself in motherhood, buried in the diapers, exhaustion, laundry, busy schedules, you forget who you were before you became a mother. If you ask a mother what her hobbies are, she’s likely to stand there racking her brain to come up with an answer other than sleep, shower, hot food, pee alone.
Writing was a hobby of mine many years ago. I always said I wanted to write a book. When I was in my early 20s living in Texas, when I thought nursing was not an attainable degree at the time, I studied journalism at community college. I even worked on the school newspaper writing movie reviews. I really enjoyed it. I love to talk, I love to tell stories, but I’m much better at sitting down putting my words on paper (or in text/typing) than I am actually speaking.
So, I guess this blog is my way of getting back into writing. I have a lot of interesting stories from my past that I don’t mind sharing, especially if it might help someone. I also have plenty of funny stories thanks to my silly boys and never-boring-job in the ER. I love to help people, which is probably why I became a nurse. I love to share anything that could help others.
I hope you’ll find something helpful, interesting, and/or entertaining from my blog! 🙂
As Elle Woods once said, “Exercise gives you endorphins. Endorphins make you happy. Happy people just don’t shoot their husbands.” {Legally Blonde}
Once you hit 40, it feels like your body suddenly starts falling apart – hot flashes, random aches and pains, fatigue, etc. The last thing you want to do is lace up your sneakers and hit the gym. But here’s the twist: working out might be the very thing that helps with all of those annoying symptoms (and more). Now, hear me out, I’m not saying you need to be at the gym at 4 a.m. for hours on end or become a bodybuilder. We’re busy, working moms, so the key is to keep it simple. That’s always been my motto—and it’s about time we all embraced it! Here are 2 tips for keeping working out simple so you can stay active and keep up with this chaotic life we lead:
Make Workouts Easy
Now like I said – keep it simple.
As a mom with a packed schedule, going to the gym often felt like one more thing on my to-do list—just another thing to squeeze in. That’s actually why I stopped going to the gym altogether.
Instead, I set a simple goal: work out for 15-20 minutes at least 4-5 days a week. I decided to bring the workout to me, so I invested in equipment that didn’t take up much space at home. And no, I didn’t build a full-on gym in my house—I don’t have the space or budget for that! I went on Amazon and picked up some simple items like resistance bands, weighted straps for my wrists and ankles, and a mini-stair stepper. All of this, plus my yoga mat, fits neatly in our storage ottoman.
Making my “gym” more accessible has made it so much easier to stick to my goal. Sometimes, I even work out in my pjs! It’s as simple as turning on a show and starting my workout in the living room. Before I know it, I’ve hit my 15-20 minutes. I also try to walk the dog regularly, and when the weather is nice, I ride my bike.
Working out doesn’t have to be a huge chore or a big trip to the gym. I just stop what I’m doing, get on the floor, and get it done. Simple, effective, and it fits right into my day!
Click on the pics above, or check out My Favorite Things to see the workout gear I love using at home!
Make Working out FUN
As I mentioned earlier, one of my favorite ways to get exercise is by riding my bike. A few months ago, Logan learned to ride without training wheels, and I was so excited! Now we have a fun and active activity we can enjoy as a family. On nice days, we love to ride our bikes together. It’s a great way to get outside, enjoy the fresh air, and stay active. We also have a basketball goal in our driveway. Both of my boys play basketball, so anytime the weather is decent I like to get out there and shoot hoops with them to help them practice. When the weather is cold, rainy, or just plain yucky, I turn to something a little cozier: a kid-friendly workout video on YouTube. Logan loves to workout with me, and it’s always a blast! Not only is it fun, but it’s quality time spent together while moving our bodies. Whether we’re biking, playing a sport, or working out inside, we’re getting that active family time in—and it feels great!
“Balance is not something you find, it’s something you create.” — Jana Kingsford
Healthcare Worker Moms: How to Make PRN Work For YOU and Your Family
Being a working mother is full of challenges. I maintained a full-time job working 40 hours a week when Blake was younger, and it wasn’t until Logan was about 6 months old that I made a change. The change was out of necessity, but turned out to be a blessing. Logan was born in April 2020 – a covid baby. I returned to work after maternity leave, and Logan started daycare. Matt and I were both considered “essential workers” and we figured out that didn’t jive very well with a baby in daycare that closed every other week due to covid cases. Also, Blake was at home doing remote learning since school was not back in person yet. This was around the time Matt was starting his pressure washing business, which kinda took off since people were stuck at home bored and decided to fix up their house! We had a long talk and look at our budget, looked at cost-cutting ideas, and made the decision for me to go from full time to PRN. If you’re not familiar, PRN basically means that I work “as needed,” like a flexible part time. I pick my hours, sometimes I work 4, 8, 12 at a time. Sometimes I work during the day, evening, or night. I work as much as I want/can or as little as I want (as long as I maintain the minimum requirement which is minimal). The downside to being PRN is you lose all benefits – no paid time off, no health insurance, etc. You only get paid when you work. At the time, I had health insurance on myself and the boys through through my job, so we had to get private health insurance. It was a little costly, but overall doable and we made it work.
Now 4 1/2 years later, I’ve found so many benefits to being PRN. The world is somewhat back to normal, and I could go back full time but the benefits of being PRN far outweigh full time for the time being. PROS: I make MORE money than I did working full time – working less, I never have to miss my kids’ activities, I don’t have to worry about vacation time getting approved/denied, and I don’t have to work the big important holidays (I do have a holiday requirement but I usually take care of that by working 4th of July or New Years or something like that – I haven’t worked Christmas or Thanksgiving in over 5 years). CONS: No paid time off – I only get paid for what I physically work, no health insurance, no guaranteed hours.
How I Make the Cons of PRN Work for Me
While being PRN has its benefits, it also comes with a few challenges. But I’ve found ways to make the cons work for me and my family. Here’s how I manage:
No PTO? Save Up My Own “PTO”
One of the biggest cons of PRN work is no paid time off. But I’ve found a way to handle it: I keep a small savings account specifically for unexpected time off. It’s not a huge amount, but it gives me peace of mind knowing I have a cushion if I need to take a day off.
I transfer $25 per paycheck into this account. I rarely call out, so I don’t dip into it often. However, if we have a vacation planned, I’ll work a little extra leading up to the trip. I also have a goal for how many hours I need to work in each pay period to meet our budget. Typically, that’s about 24 hours every two weeks.
If we plan a trip, I’ll either cram those 24 hours into one week or work a little extra each week leading up to it. And I like to think of the money I make as “fun money.” I’ll do some “nurse math” when planning trips—like, one extra 12-hour shift equals two nights at a hotel. Or 36 hours can cover the cost of a cruise. It helps me stay motivated and makes budgeting for family adventures easier!
No Health Insurance? Add It to My “Nurse Math”
Health insurance is another challenge with PRN work. Many nurses stay full-time just for the benefits. But when I had Logan, I realized that hospital-based insurance wasn’t all it’s cracked up to be. After a lot of number crunching, we found that staying PRN with private insurance actually works out better for us financially.
Here’s the thing: adding the cost of health insurance into your “nurse math” makes a big difference. You also have to factor in the money you save by not using daycare anymore. When you compare the costs of health insurance versus what you’re saving in daycare and other expenses, it often balances out. If your partner has a job that offers insurance, check that out too—it might be worth it, even if it costs a little more than the insurance through the hospital. At the end of the day, it’s all about balancing costs and benefits.
No Guaranteed Hours? I Plan for Flexibility
At the beginning of each 6-week period, my manager sends out the “Needs List” with available shifts for PRN staff. There’s usually no shortage of hours to pick up, so I don’t worry too much about meeting my minimum. But as a seasoned PRN nurse, I’ve learned to plan my hours a little differently.
I don’t pick up all my hours at once anymore. With kids, things come up—sick days, unexpected schedule changes, and Matt’s growing business are all factors that can mess with my plans. So now, I pick up my hours week by week. It sounds a little scary, especially for someone like me who loves to plan, but I’ve learned that it’s actually pretty easy to get the hours I need.
I have a list of coworkers who are often willing to give up shifts. And if no needs are listed on the schedule, I start texting my coworkers to see if they want time off. We also have a Facebook group where I can post my availability for the week. It’s been rare for me not to get as many hours as I want.
Staying on Top of Education
One thing I’ve had trouble with as a PRN worker is staying on top of my continuing education requirements required by the health system. We’re allowed 3 hours per pay period to do education at home, and we get paid for it. I’m chronically behind on my education, so I take advantage of this policy and try to get some education hours in toward the end of the pay period if I’m needing a few extra hours to meet my budget goals.
Final Thoughts
While being PRN comes with its own set of challenges—like no PTO, no guaranteed hours, and managing health insurance—the flexibility it offers is invaluable. By planning ahead, staying organized, and doing a little “nurse math,” I’ve been able to make the most of my PRN schedule and find a balance that works for my family.
PRN isn’t for everyone, but for me, it’s been a way to maintain a fulfilling career while having the flexibility to be there for my family when they need me most. It’s all about finding what works for you, your budget, and your lifestyle.
As a mom of 2 boys, I feel like I am always on the go. Logan is in Pre-K at an elementary school and needs to be dropped off around 7:15am, picked up 2:15pm. Blake is in middle school and rides the bus to/from school. On Mondays they have hockey, on Tuesdays they have basketball practice, Wednesday morning I drop Blake and his friend off at school early for Chess Club, Wednesday afternoon Logan has OT, Saturday is for basketball games – Logan at 8/9am, Blake 7/8pm. T-ball season will start up again when basketball ends, only Logan does that one, but it is usually 2 nights per week. Blake is in band so add a concert here and there. Oh, and I have to fit some shifts in at the ER at some point lol. And some quality time with the husband.
I’ve been working on my mental health recently, and one thing I’ve started doing is changing the way I think about things – turning negative thoughts into positive. Instead of “I’m so tired, ugh I have to fill up my gas tank AGAIN, ugh I have to air out the hockey stuff when we get home, but I’m so tired…” I turned it into:
“It’s a busy season of life, but I love watching my boys do things they love. I love watching them be active – so much better than screen time. They are learning valuable lessons about teamwork and discipline. I’m BLESSED to be able to afford a nice reliable car to transport them, I’m BLESSED to be able to afford the gas to transport them. And when it’s my turn to transport Blake to/from basketball, it’s just the two of us and I really enjoy that one-on-one time with him because we don’t get as much of that anymore. I’m GRATEFUL to have such a great coparenting relationship with Sean, and that all 3 of us get along well and work together to make sure the kids are cared for and get where they need to be.”
As I type this, it is 6:40am on a Saturday morning. Saturdays are long, but I’m grateful to be alive on these long days. Logan has a basketball game this morning at 8am. Blake’s is later tonight at 8pm. Matt goes to work at noon on weekends, so he will miss Blake’s game. I have a sitter coming to stay with Logan because he goes to bed at 7:30pm. We try not to disrupt bedtime with him. Keeping them on routines, or as close to routine as possible, helps everything run smoothly.
I challenge you to take one negative thought you have today, and think about how to turn it into a positive. One simple change in your mindset can make a huge change in your mental health and how you handle the day.
Scrubs and Motherhood 